Positive Feelings Solve Dilemmas

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Some experts have suggested that when we are calm and relaxed we should choose to perform familiar tasks. It may be rowing a boat, scrubbing the floor, digging in the garden, driving, swimming and dancing. But it must have this one attribute – the occupation must not be distasteful to us. Experience a quiet, positive emotion. When a negative emotion strikes, we can concentrate on the positive emotion. By neutralising out mind, we can avoid the risk of suppressing our anger which might work against us in undercurrents of anxiety and resentment.

Negative feelings come to all of us from time to time. They not only darken our day, but also make us unattractive to our fellow beings causing us to perform badly, sometimes with serious consequences. Ill-timed flare-ups, whatever may be the provocation, can spoil important human relationships and often ruin important dealings

When we fill ourselves with positive emotions like enthusiasm, courage and confidence, they will help us to solve the dilemma of the moment.


Extracted from 'Self Empowerment' by Bridget Menezes (Malaysian author)

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